If you aren't neck turning, you'll achieve more consistent bullet grip and "neck tension" by final sizing the INSIDE of the neck, rather than the outside.
Standard FLS dies do this, but size case necks down more than is needed prior to the expander ball finalizing neck ID.
Another option is a bushing die with a decapping stem that has an expander ball. Thus you can choose a bushing a few .001s undersize, and still finalize neck ID on the ram downstroke.
I've found better runout by doing the expanding on the ram UPstroke however, using a Sinclair expander die and "neck turning" mandrel that is sized .002" under nominal bullet diameter (.306" for 30 cal).
So, I choose a bushing that sizes the neck down ~.008" under what it'll be with bullet seated, then I expand to .002" under, yielding .002" "neck tension".
I've often read many people really like the Lee collet die, but I've never tried it.
I think you're over thinking and worrying too much about overworking brass.