I haven't seen this discussed here (at least not recently) but might make for a good discussion. I'm sure the vast majority of us consider our homes our own personal castles. But we may have a trusted inner-circle in which we gave access to our homes, whether through physical keys or digital access. I'm not personally concerned with the details myself of which type of access you may have provided but more so curious as to the "who" portion that you gave access to of your home.
As for me- the only one that could potentially come and go into our house is my sister-in-law. As for the why- well both my wife and I have a higher than most threshold of trust required in order to give the literal/figurative keys of our new house to anyone and she's the only one that checked our boxes. It may be unusual to some here- but we have not (and agreed to this jointly) given any keys/or other access to our parents and don't intend to change that decision, at least not in the near future.
It's not that we even distrust either of our parents but this is our... refuge I'll say, and it's comforting to my wife & I to know that the vast majority of our inner circle cannot come in without our direct involvement. Neighbors(?), hah- if we live here 20+ years and never know their names, I'd be ok with that because I'd rather we keep to ourselves and do our own thing.
That said- does anyone else feel the same way, have similar approaches or have a completely different outlook on this topic?
-LD
As for me- the only one that could potentially come and go into our house is my sister-in-law. As for the why- well both my wife and I have a higher than most threshold of trust required in order to give the literal/figurative keys of our new house to anyone and she's the only one that checked our boxes. It may be unusual to some here- but we have not (and agreed to this jointly) given any keys/or other access to our parents and don't intend to change that decision, at least not in the near future.
It's not that we even distrust either of our parents but this is our... refuge I'll say, and it's comforting to my wife & I to know that the vast majority of our inner circle cannot come in without our direct involvement. Neighbors(?), hah- if we live here 20+ years and never know their names, I'd be ok with that because I'd rather we keep to ourselves and do our own thing.
That said- does anyone else feel the same way, have similar approaches or have a completely different outlook on this topic?
-LD
