My heart goes out to women who actually are abused, however they are few and fucking far between the ones who just don't have any goddamn sense about how to escape an asshole. Sometimes folks just deserve each other, and in the worst ways.
I've seen a lot of abusive relationships thrive on substance abuse codependency and circular emotional lashings. Both sides of the codependency seem like a psychological disorder, and I'm not saying I don't have any sympathy for such a thing, but I'm not going to beat up my ex's new BF because he hits her stupid ass every time she shows up for their weekly fuck and fight. There's a right and a wrong way to do anything, she can leave his ass and stay with friends while I don't fuck my life up proving a point to some emotional pervert.
None of that abusive husband shit works on me anymore. I'll put any "abused" lady up in a hotel for a week with no booze, smokes, or drugs. See how long they enjoy it before they run back home because hubby got a box of wine. It's inconvenient to acknowledge, like I said it's a real thing in some cases and that's truly a shame, but in most others it's just two idiots who beat on each other and argue every time the fix runs out. You can call me a dickhead for saying it, but I've seen it with my own two eyes more times than I can count.