Dumb son, moron principal & my patience

[BlueStateCaptive]

I gotta vent............
My son (18)decides he is a man now and chooses not to do chores, not get a job or a drivers license and my wife caught him in our bedroom snooping around for the cell phone we took from him because he was getting photos from underage girls. So she booted him out of the house for the weekend (first weekend in January). Well he never came back. Bounced around from friends house to friends house. Now it gets even better................
We live in a small town and I knew his bridges would get burned before to long (lying, stealing, mooching, lazy, etc), so I warned my parents that will be getting a call and to stay out of it because they do not know the whole story. After 3 hours at their house after working a 14 hour day, I kinda thought my position and request was clear............stupid me! They took him in. Drove him to school every day and even went in to talk to the principal!! Well, it didn't take long for them to see things in my light so they told him he needs to work things out with me and come home. My son says fine, see ya later g'ma and g'pa and ................NEVER CAME HOME!
So now he found his way to a 46 year divorcee who is known to sell drugs, his kids don't even want to see him and he is a gold medal pole puffer (FAG)!!!! My son 'lives' there now but this is the same kid who avoids work like that is his job. Well we all know nothing is for free. So.........
Today I get a phone call from principal shit-brick and states Mr. Pole Puffer is requesting certain personal information from the school on my son because he is helping him get rent subsidy and food stamps. Principal shit-brick said he was just giving me a 'heads up' and thought I should know.
That phone call came in today while I was at work (go figure) and sent my night right into the toilet. So I call the wife and told her to find Junior and explain to him how Mr. Butt-slam is sticking his foot in my doghouse and I'm gonna bite it off!!!!!!! So through the miracle of Facebook, my wife arranges to meet junior 'I am a man now'. He tells my wife that the food stamp and rent subsidy story is not what Mr. Pickle-pusher told him it was like. She told my son to make this situation right or our small town is gonna make the nightly news. She said he agreed with extreme fear in his face.
Kids.........I love 'em but they are f'in BRAIN DEAD! And Mr. Pole-puffer knows better! That is so waaaaaaaaay over the line! And who the fuck is the principal telling me he is giving me a heads up before he sends this raging queer personal information on a kid who he has zero responsibility for? With HIPPA laws and that crap now the normal thing in today's life, he couldn't possibly even think to release any info.................or? I guess I'd have to lawyer up.

Lastly, we have told Junior many times he can come home but he has to get a job, a drivers license, save for a car, keep his room clean, basic chores and stop the underage porn from the brain dead girls. Simple shit but in his world I'm the asshole

 

[Veer_G]

Re: Dumb son, moron principal & my patience

So, you have a rebellious teenager. BTDT, and now I have a rebellious 28 year old who thinks he's a man, despite evidence to the contrary. I'm not sure what you can do about this gentleman of the fancy persuasion who has insinuated himself into your son's life, since at 18 he is an adult in the eyes of the law, in high school or not. Remember that HIPPA has to do with health care and that confidentiality requirements extend only so far. One other thing: change all your locks, if you haven't already, and fix your windows so that they're jimmy-proof.

 

[thumper49802]

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I feel for you man, hope it all works out. I know if I would have acted up like that my old man would definately have taken me out in the woods, tuned me up and then put my ass to work.

 

[Veer_G]

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Things are different now. 18 year-olds are more cognizant of their rights and the law. Once upon a time you might have made them snap shit. Now it's just an opportunity to put your own ass on a silver platter.

 

[High Binder]

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He's 18, i.e. legally an adult.

If he wants child porn, food stamps, room-up with a druggie and a "pickle pusher" than that's his prerogative.

With so many enablers around him the best thing you can do is cut him off but let him know you're there for him when he gets out of jail which is where his current path is leading. Shitty man, I feel and pray for you.

 

[Alaskaman11]

Re: Dumb son, moron principal & my patience

Take him down to the Marine or Army recruiter. SD/PI or Benning school for boys can set him stright.

 

[Maser]

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I say let him be a man. While it's hard for a parent to do, sometimes lessons in life have to be learned the hard way. I never went through the whole "I'm 18 and I'm a man now" routine because I was working since I was 13 and continue to do so to provide for my family and that in itself makes me a man.

I also like the idea of pushing him to join the Marines. Marines have a LONG history of turning boys into men and into productive members of society. But I have a feeling he won't oblige to that given what you've posted. So yeah, I say let him experience life on his own. The law clearly states that he is legally an adult and that you are no longer legally responsible for him. While you may feel morally responsible, you sure as hell aren't legally responsible unless he does something illegal in your name.

 

[SniperCJ]

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Your son is 18 and legally an adult. If he wants to live and provide personal information to, a gay (or anyother) person, he can do so.

You need to apply a little tough love, stay out of the way and let your son find out whats what.

 

[kraigWY]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Take him down to the Marine or Army recruiter. SD/PI or Benning school for boys can set him stright.</div></div>

If you can pull it off, that's the answer.

My youngest was heading that direction. Quite school, wouldn't get up if he had a job, got fired, total dipshit in the disaplin department. I figured he was heading for jail and or drugs.

But he did like mechanics, only time he was straight was when he was working on vehicles.

Talked him into going into the Guard where he could learn diesel mechanics. Everyone was saying he'd never make it.

Well he did, he was a completely different kid when he came home from basic/AIT. Has a great paying job he loves, got married, buying his own place, even made Soldier of the Month last Jan.

Military isn't for everyone, but for some its a life changer.

 

[opshin556]

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My advice to you;
Start drinking heavily.

 

[glocksig40]

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Bro, I feel your pain. I have a useless step-daughter who works the same angles as your son. She will be 22 years old in a couple of months and has a baby by her ex-boyfriend. She has been a lazy ass couch holder since high school. Her mother refused to kick her out until she had some skills and training to have a good job. We got her thru Toni and Guy cosmotology school and a state certification. Helped her get an apprentiship with Toni and Guy. She fucked it all away because she was lazy. She took 6 months to complete the 3 month apprentiship and they told her she wasnt motivated. She got knocked up by a dirt bag and was kicked out. Dirt bag left her and baby high and dry. She just moves from opportunity to opportunity. Someone feels sorry for her and takes her in. She sits on her ass for weeks and they kick her out. She starts the routine all over. My wife and I have no use for this situation and she wont listen so we are done. The babys daddy is the shit bag who broke in my house and stole my guns and wifes jewelry. He was never 1 time allowed in my house so we know she brought him in while nobody was home. Now she lives with different boyfriend who Im sure is the same caliber shit head. Im sure she will end up with peter poison again and have 2 bastard kids that will never have an opportunity or stability. Its a sad situation but sometimes you have to just let the hard headed little shits go see what the real world is about. I have no regrets and dont feel bad. We did absolutely everything we could possibly do to prevent this with no results. I wish you the best of luck in getting past it.

SP

 

[Bushmaster7]

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Send him to Pryor Oklahoma. My friend there runs a camp for kids like him that straighten them out. Military discipline, the whole works. Or get him in the military pronto if they will take him? That usually works as well.

 

[shankster..]

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BlueStateCaptive, since you live in small town start wearing this when you go out:

If that doesn't shame him, nothing will.

 

[Phil1]

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: opshin556</div><div class="ubbcode-body">My advice to you;
Start drinking heavily. </div></div>

See this: http://www.snipershide.com/forum/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1887761#Post1887761

Someday your patience will be rewarded, or so I've heard.

 

[BlueStateCaptive]

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Thanks for the replies everyone. I do not post much but I had to vent on this. After a couple glasses of fine Scotch and a great Partagas Short, I decided to let him be the man he thinks he is.
I called the school and nicely but sternly warned the principal about getting involved and stay focused on the little shit heads who have problems 'in school' not outside of school. My wife talked to him as well, in a way only women can do.
I still wanna crush Mr. Faggo though. I don't wanna loose my guns or anything else over it but its tough to control your anger when someone walks into your doghouse and tries to change what you have built.
I never joined the military (I regret it now) but I agree......Junior needs it. They can give him the discipline he needs

 

[BlueStateCaptive]

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I would wear that everyplace in town!!!! This pole puffer 'coaching' my son is so hated in town.



If that doesn't shame him, nothing will. [/quote]

 

[BlueStateCaptive]

Re: Dumb son, moron principal & my patience

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Phil1</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: opshin556</div><div class="ubbcode-body">My advice to you;
Start drinking heavily. </div></div>

See this: http://www.snipershide.com/forum/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1887761#Post1887761

Someday your patience will be rewarded, or so I've heard.</div></div>

I hit up a couple glasses of Oban 15 year old and a good cigar. You are right........a couple fine drinks helps

 

[Switchblade]

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Now mind you, this is all what if kind of stuff but...
If a certain enableing enema nozzle had tires sidewall slashed by parties unknown that would be a shame. If Enema Nozzle had parties unknown place a few squirts of fish emulshion fertilizer in his HVAC external entry that would really suck. If Enema Nozzle had his trash gone through for receipts and his card receipts given to the local big city ID Thieves, man that would be a shame. Say someone went out to a computer somewhere and went to many porn mail sites Enema Nozzle would receive tons of sex based snail mail. Now the really fun stuff would be if Enema Nozzle's name came up on NAMBLA's list...just sayin

 

[Switchblade]

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ps as for the kid, do what I did:
Give him the choice of two things. He gets right, goes to school or finds a job and acts as a normal citizen.
Option Two was Marines or Army. That would be the knock your ass out because I am your dad and you wake up at MEPPS.
The third option was given and agreed to be never mentioned again. "I will kick your lazy ass up and down this street until you do the right thing and make your mother happy. She will not like this and yell at me to stop, but her yelling will only make me more pissed off and your ass beat even worse. You think you are a man, BOY? Take your best shot and learn the hard lessons of life. Right now you like it or not, I am responsible for your actions until you are 21. Would you care to take the first shot?"

He got his job and McD's, paid his mom rent, saved money, kept a clean room and house(did his dishes etc), and when he had saved up enough, moved off to NYC with his buddys as a responsible citizen. He is now seeking his fortune as a liquor Buyer and shelf designer for an upscale NYC liquor shop. When he comes to cisit, he brings dad bourbon adn wine bottles, and exotic sea salts and other fine things. Dad is happy, Mom is ecstatic, and No1 now has a fine girl to hang on his arm, and she has super good taste too in coffee and other fine foods. I think option three was a good bit of real world it will happen, and option one was the correct choice. As a Marine, Soldier, and Veteran, and Dad, the last thing I want is for my boys to go into the military, but If they do not do right, they will be given the same accord as their older brother. I think it's a good thing to hear the younger two say,"I'm not going to be like no1 and ..." well you get the idea. I think No2 and No3 will be fine so long as they kep their eyes on the good prizes and stay motivated to succeed with straight A's and potential scholorships