GF doesn't like guns

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#1
So does anyone date/ has married someone who doesn't like guns/shooting, etc? Looking for some advice on dealing with differences of opinion on guns/ teaching children about guns and to shoot.

The girl I've been dating for the last year and a half didn't grow up around guns and never even touched one until she met me. (I'm 23 and out of college, she's 19 and has a year of school left). She has gone shooting with me twice and only shoots my 10/22 and Savage .22 bolt gun. Shot one round from the AR-15 and didn't like it because it was too loud, etc. She wants to go again and as long as she tolerates guns I'm cool with that.

However, she brought up that most of the things I share on facebook seem to be about guns and hating on liberals. She said how she doesn't want me to share that stuff so that her family/ friends don't think I'm some sort of physco gun nut. She felt uncomfortable thinking about having guns in the house if we were ever to move in together (saying she wants less than 10 and preferably 3 or less) and then got very uneasy talking about teaching potential kids to shoot. I said 8-12ish depending on how mature the kid is and everything and she said at least a teenager, and ideally she wouldn't want one of our kids touching/shooting guns until they were at least 16, as she didn't touch a gun until she was 18.

I explained how lots of children begin to shoot at a young age and that teaching them safety prevents accidents from them being curious. and assured her that my guns would be locked up in a safe, etc. But she still wasn't happy about it.

She was mad that I wasn't willing to compromise with her and that we should break up now if I'm going to choose guns over her down the road when we cross that bridge.

Is she being dramatic and immature and will learn to live with my life long hobby of shooting/relaoding, or should I seriously consider calling it quits with her. Thoughts?
 
#3
Bail.
Abandon Ship!
Run, while you still have the chance.

You do realize here, how she's 'making the ultimatums' and it's "up to you to conform to her wishes".

Piss on that noise, TWICE.

Get the hell out, whilst you still have a chance. AND, see this for what it is, from all angles, so that you know better than to have to ask, to begin with.

There is nothing "right" in the opening post, and everything is "wrong" about the whole situation, and this guy is asking "should I stay?"

NO. Not just no, but HELL'S NAWW....


forgot to add: Tell her that she can only keep 3 tampons on hand, at any time.
 
#4
Just had my 24th anniversary this week. known my wife for 27 years. I did not get into guns until about 1999. So here we go.

The 2nd part and last sentence of Rthur's comments are spot on. I am not sure you need a new GF but there is a 50/50 chance she will try and "fix" you.

My wife could give 2 shits about guns. She will go with me a couple times a year but honestly it is mostly more pain in the ass than it is worth. She shoots about 15rds and is ready to leave And I pack a lunch and dinner expecting to get home about 10pm.

It is my release and she has hers. If your GF is okay with your release then OK, If she is always telling you guns kill people then run.

When something like New Town happens or the news talks about the murders in Chicago and we have an adult conversation about it, my wife normally agrees with me and sees my sense of logic. She really just doesn't care for the huge responsibility.

I don't give her to much shit about her release (casino about 6 times a year, fucking blows my mind). and she really doesn't say anything about mine. She knows I have more than 3 but that is about all she knows and that is by her choice not mine.
 
#5
^^^^^^
Truth has been spoken by both above. There simply is no cure for this.



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#7
I'm going to concur with the others.
You are going to be miserable, as you are looking at a control freak.
Couple that with the eventual resentment you will feel later, when you are unable to share things with your children.
What else is she going to forbid you from?
She is already trying to control what you post on facebook, is she going to forbid you from watching football?
forbid you from hanging out with your crazy, right wing friends?
make you close your snipershide account?
Where will you draw the line?
Get you a mail order chick from Asia.
 
#8
Get a clue from Barry and kick the door down leaving.

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#9
I figured this would be the overwhelming response. And I completely agree. It's been stupid of me to even consider staying given the circumstances. Its more of I don't approve of guns and want you to limit your hobby as opposed to i don't like guns but don't care if you have them.
 
#10
The first problem is that she is worried about what everyone else thinks- not what you think. You're young and every girl you're with will feel like the last of the best, but that's rarely the case.

Be kind, without bringing up the guns as the difference and set her free to be with a like minded person that is right for her. Then, head on out and find a girl that worries more about you than everyone else.
 
#13
Wait till you get a dirt bike.

Anytime someone gives me an ultimatum i pick the one that I like.


PS Keep using a condom. so you dont get boxed for 18 years
 
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#14
A 19-year old girl is one year out of high school. She doesn't know anything yet, stop talking about marrying/having kids with her. The way you've described it, if you stay with her, she might change you or you might change her. Either way, at least one of you is likely to be unhappy with the results.
 
#16
' An irrational fear of firearms is a sign of sexual and psychological immaturity ' . Freud . If you are really set on this particular cooter ,
find a way to make shooting fun , get her on a 22lr and or 223 bolt gun with proper double hearing protection so it isn't too ' loud ' .
If she still arcs up about firearms , ask her if she can speak German or Japanese or Arabic and give her a history lesson ….
 
#17
Leave while you can . Had a girl like that once . Nothing was ever good enough always bitching . Would bitch about me doing long recording sessions . Bitched about my job and income . "You need to make more money . Your dick is too big . Don't punch me in the back of the head while your effin me, rippin my hair out and choking me . I hate when you bang my sister " . You just can't please some women .
 
#19
Alphatreedog said:
Leave while you can . Had a girl like that once . Nothing was ever good enough always bitching . Would bitch about me doing long recording sessions . Bitched about my job and income . "You need to make more money . Your dick is too big . Don't punch me in the back of the head while your effin me, rippin my hair out and choking me . I hate when you bang my sister " . You just can't please some women .
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You tells it like it be's, dawg, you tells it like it be's.

 
#20
There are lots of women.....you are young........ find one who will not want to comprise your feelings regarding firearms.........besides, just think about the benefits that will go along with finding the right woman......:p
 
#21
Erud hit it on the head...

most girls will have brain adaptations (change) in the early 20's again in their mid 20's...yet again in their late 20's and more in their 30's.

At some point she needs to be comfortable with herself and nit care what others think and at the same time allow you your hobbies. I am sure she has some or will in the future.

I have been down this road myself in the past..it was bikes and guns..

listen to what these guys are saying... At 19 you should NOT be talking about kids and marriage.. if at all i would not approach that till LATE 20's or 30's.

And as most have mentioned...she is going to try to change you sooner or later..

i would move on... if she is that concerned about your facebook posts you are heading down a long and costly road of staying with her.

Good luck....
 
#22
Leave and leave quick. Though have some nasty fun with her and her friend. Heck you can't get her knocked up as long as your pounding the back door.

Nothing good will come from her. It will be a constant fight. Was in a very similar situation at your age....left her and found my wife. She enjoys shooting and helps encouraging our son to shoot, he just turned 5. Listen to these guys, as they typically won't lead you astray.
 
#23
Thanks for all the advice y'all. She is a fantastic girl-- except for the dislike of guns lol. There's lots of things I am willing to compromise on but guns has to be something I don't want to compromise on and something we have completely opposite views on.
 
#24
Young Man, you already know the answer. I'll keep it SAF (simple as fuck). You stay in this relationship you give up all right to bitch about anything, and I mean anything that you know is coming down the road. Do the right thing. Post up some pics. :cool:
 
#31
You're way too young and unencumbered to deal with that bullshit from a 19yr old piece of ass. Not to be a dick, but at 23 all pussy is good pussy. It's not until you're older that you realize that some of it ain't worth the woman it's attached to.

I'm about to be 44 and am a redneck currently living in Chicago. My gf of several years is about to be 35 and is a west coast-educated progressive liberal. The reason we get on so well is that she can be as loony as she wants about climate change and whatever other silliness, but we don't try to impose our beliefs on each other. She and I met over my love of guns and her hearing that there was a gun-loving southerner in the bar and she sought me out to see pics of my guns and talk to me about them.

Throughought this past election season I actively asked myself at what point our differences were something to worry about, and the simple answer was that as long as we agreed on the 2A and my right to own all the silly shit that I can afford, then who's using what bathroom is just background noise in an otherwise badass relationship.

Keep in mind that when she was asking me out I had a multi-hour long conversation with her that started with: "I'm old and I'm settled and I am who I am, so if you have any notion of trying to change me, then we can part now as friends" and went on from there
 
#34
You are young, there are plenty more worthy females out there.

DUMP HER NOW!!!

Life is too short to put up with bitchy women.

Guns, big manly dogs and the great outdoors.... who needs to put up with a ball and chain.
 
#35
I was in much the same situation as you once, a long time ago. My girlfriend didn't want to suck my cock. So one day ,after putting up with her refusals, I went to the back yard and picked up one of my Rottweilers hard turds and went into the bedroom. I dropped my pants, grabbed my dick in one hand and had the dog turd in the other. She was sleeping, I said honey ,wake up, I have a present for you.


she woke up, rolled over and looked at my "presents ". I said " your sucking one of these , take a pick"

its all in how you play the game.
 
#36
Dr snipe going to give you advice. Gorilla fuck her for the next week. Leave after, remember that 19 year old fuck. Cause when you get older and married, you will long for it. Get out!
 
#38
My girlfriend and I had some difference of opinion, mainly related to her being more empathetic than myself to people in some situations. But we were fully aligned on core values. She had no experience with guns, but understood that shooting/hunting was important to me. I told her very early on that whatever happened, she should NEVER plan on my not shooting/hunting or running (my other major hobby). I made it clear that if these hobbies were not acceptable, this was a showstopper and we should go our separate ways.

Almost 20 years later we're married 13 years with 3 kids. I finally found a handgun she likes, but that said, she hasn't shot it in almost a year. But her liberal/socialist tendencies are long gone with experience in the real world. She doesn't shoot much at all, but after my first f-class match she told me I should go ahead and drop the $$$ to build a dedicated f-class rifle if that made me happy.

That's the thing, she isn't trying to change me. She understands me and wants me to be happy. Same as I buy her another $1000 guitar or a damn iPhone, or a new car because it's blue. Marriage is hard enough. You should look at your wedding day and say if this is the best it ever is, I'd be happy with this forever. If you're making painful compromises before you are even married you are in for a painful experience.
 
#39
triceratops3 said:
So does anyone date/ has married someone who doesn't like guns/shooting, etc? Looking for some advice on dealing with differences of opinion on guns/ teaching children about guns and to shoot.

The girl I've been dating for the last year and a half didn't grow up around guns and never even touched one until she met me. (I'm 23 and out of college, she's 19 and has a year of school left). She has gone shooting with me twice and only shoots my 10/22 and Savage .22 bolt gun. Shot one round from the AR-15 and didn't like it because it was too loud, etc. She wants to go again and as long as she tolerates guns I'm cool with that.

However, she brought up that most of the things I share on facebook seem to be about guns and hating on liberals. She said how she doesn't want me to share that stuff so that her family/ friends don't think I'm some sort of physco gun nut. She felt uncomfortable thinking about having guns in the house if we were ever to move in together (saying she wants less than 10 and preferably 3 or less) and then got very uneasy talking about teaching potential kids to shoot. I said 8-12ish depending on how mature the kid is and everything and she said at least a teenager, and ideally she wouldn't want one of our kids touching/shooting guns until they were at least 16, as she didn't touch a gun until she was 18.

I explained how lots of children begin to shoot at a young age and that teaching them safety prevents accidents from them being curious. and assured her that my guns would be locked up in a safe, etc. But she still wasn't happy about it.

She was mad that I wasn't willing to compromise with her and that we should break up now if I'm going to choose guns over her down the road when we cross that bridge.

Is she being dramatic and immature and will learn to live with my life long hobby of shooting/relaoding, or should I seriously consider calling it quits with her. Thoughts?
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Leave her --- i tried to compromise and regret the 3 years of lost shooting when I finally dumped her ass :)
 
#40
It sounds to me that she's just not as into guns as you are. There's really nothing wrong with that. Couples shouldn't have to feel the need to share the exact same hobbies. In fact it's a good thing to have separate hobbies so that way you can both get away from eachother every now and then. There's plenty of hobbies that I have that my wife doesn't. Such as my love for video games. She'll play them every now and then, but doesn't get into them as much as me. As far as guns goes, we have known eachother our entire lives and were raised in the same town. She says she's not as into guns as I am, but the look on her face when she's unloading my HD gun says otherwise. We are married and have two kids who have been introduced to shooting as well.
 
#41
Honestly, I was in a similar position about 18 years ago. My girlfriend at the time didn't grow up with firearms in the home and had never touched a firearm when we met. I started with a 10-22 and a paper plate and a LOT of ammunition. About a year a friend from grad school introduced us to skeet, trap, and sporting clays. I had a pump shotgun and we would go every couple of weeks to the local skeet range and shoot a few rounds. We moved in together and my firearms came with me. I bought a safe and kept them stored there, but never made a big deal about them. Dove season came along and the shotgun came out and we borrowed another so she could go too. Deer season rolled around and the deer rifle made its appearance. She had what I would call an unnatural aversion to hand guns, but I didn't own any so that wasn't an issue. Seasons passed, and more guns moved into the house, eventually a Glock became a resident. We've been married for 16 years and she is now talking about taking a CHL class with some co workers. The shotgun she received from my dad for Christmas one year is a prized possession. Her accumulation of firearms rivals my own. Safety, education, demystification, and familiarization. Once they had a use other than "people killers" the firearms in the house were just tools with a job, like the rake and the shovel in the garage.

The above notwithstanding, if she is trying to change you to be with her, get out.
 
#42
Don't make the same mistake twice either... that first date next time around needs to look a little something like this to alleviate all doubt!


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#47
sirhrmechanic said:
You beat me to it by mere minutes....

Get rid of that chick... find yourself one of these:

Vanessa-Dobos.jpg


And I ain't talking about the minigun...

Cheers,

Sirhr
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Does it mean I've gotten old that I would much rather have the minigun? There's a lot more cute girls than Dillon Aeros in the world....

Maser, god help me for saying this: I understand your point. BUT, it's not what's at issue here. Honestly I don't think many of us would give two shits if our women weren't "into guns" the way we are (even though many are, thankfully). What's at issue is that she's made it a point to try to dictate to him that HE can't be into guns. For reference, it's the difference between your wife not playing video games, and her telling you that you can't play video games and doesn't want your children to grow up playing video games with you. BIG DIFFERENCE

To the OP, smash all the 19yr old vag you can before you're old enough for people to judge you for it.
 
#48
jrassy said:
I was in much the same situation as you once, a long time ago. My girlfriend didn't want to suck my cock. So one day ,after putting up with her refusals, I went to the back yard and picked up one of my Rottweilers hard turds and went into the bedroom. I dropped my pants, grabbed my dick in one hand and had the dog turd in the other. She was sleeping, I said honey ,wake up, I have a present for you.


she woke up, rolled over and looked at my "presents ". I said " your sucking one of these , take a pick"

its all in how you play the game.
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Which did she choose? The suspense is killing me.
 
#49
I know this isn't what you want to hear man, but it's time to bail. My ex wife was the same way. It she tolerated it and compromised on it until my son was born then she got real uptight about guns in the house. Take it from those of us with experience and cut it loose now. Better to do it now then get married and have a kid and then have it fall apart. Just bail.


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#50
triceratops3 said:
Thanks for all the advice y'all. She is a fantastic girl-- except for the dislike of guns lol. There's lots of things I am willing to compromise on but guns has to be something I don't want to compromise on and something we have completely opposite views on.
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Remember this.
Compromise is them demanding something to advance their cause and you giving up something to further it.

My ex wife was always bitching about something. If she wasn't bitching, she was trying to get me to see something HER way.

When we were dating, I was always questioning whether I truly loved her or not. We were married for 25 years and I had had enough. Got divorced 9yrs ago and my happiness came back.

3yrs ago, I met a fantastic woman that not only supports my hobbies, but also enjoys them.
We don't have arguments or even petty heated discussions. (3yrs without a single fight, just rational discussions)
We married last June.

Opposites do not attract. Find a like minded woman that is family centered and you'll stay happy as long as you pay attention to her needs as well as your own.
 
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