Your daughter has one huge advantage, "No Preconceived Ideas". Since she is new to this I believe an objective choice is possible. She also will learn to shoot what she ends up with. Sometimes it is much better to write on an empty page, than one filled with all kinds of data already there.
I responded to this same question over on the Accurate site, but will add this. A dot just covers to much of the target bull even the smallest dot. With crosshairs depending on how wide they are this is possible as well. Fine crosshairs are your best bet. The hash marks you refere to "Can" read that "Can" not will, make the scope sight picture very busy, for a new shooter this could become confusing. Now with that said I still prefer the NighForce NP 2R. This reticle has marks at 5 MOA in the windage and 2 MOA in the Elevation plane, I never use the marks and don't really even notice they are there for the most part.
As to the illumanited reticle, I am like XTR I have only turned it on just to see if it was there and worked. Never once have I ever used them, but for some crazy reason I do like that, that feature is there. Needed? I think not...
Roland