Are you ever lucky or what? You came to one of the few places that will actually answer your question. You are suffering from a disorder, many folks have it, some had it. Hell I think I had it once a long long time ago. You have it and the only question you are really asking is "can you stop having it" and the answer is yes. "Missing the Whole Point" syndrome is treatable and without any real medical intervention if you are willing to face up to it.
Now imagine this....
You are a gunsmith that has a backlog of literally 100s of fine pistols to make. Some folks probably won't get theirs for three years or more. He makes up a great pistol, went out the door perfect in every regard. It shoots reliably, is accurate, should last a couple of life times, can be pretty much abused and will keep on doing the same thing over and over and over and over again. All the while, inside the chamber things are literally exploding! Exploding with enough energy that it can take a piece of lead and, after slinging it down the barrel, it will do quite a bit of damage a 100 yards away. You are feeling pretty good that your work is appreciated and many are standing in line to own it. Then....Kathy comes around the corner, some guy is very concerned. That tactical pistol that was sold to him is keeping him up at night, he is writing in forums about it. Why? Not shooting with precision? No.....Not reloading? No.....Clip failing to feed? No....Trigger stiff? No.....Sites loose? No......Safety not working? No..... Then what? What? What is the problem?
The craftsman looks at Kathy, Kathy looks at him......you have got to be kidding me, he says. No, says she.....I swear, I just can't take much more of this, says he....I know, she says....sad....
You can stop this syndrome by simply recognizing the symptoms and directly confronting your fucked-in-the-headness.....most of us have and are better for it. I believe in you, we all believe in you. Just don't take it too far as the guys that do...those guys...they....we'll it is just too difficult to talk about it..
P.S. How did you do that to your table, I think it will polish out, no?