A comment made in the reloading section prompted me to bring this up, I usually do if I find I am going to be sticking with a forum for a while, but just had not done it yet. Good as time as any.
Just like the title says I am 57 and have these two....issues....well I have a great many issues, but these two are the ones talking about today.
My hope in this is a little education, perhaps you have a young one in your life that is having issues, this may really help them....and you....with some of the challenges.
And for a great many this is TLDNR, so for you folk that can't read the entire thing, short answer, brain damage....duh.
So here we go:
ADHD
ADHD is really not understood outside of the people that have to deal with it one way or the other. They think attention deficit hyper activity....well they can't sit still and can't concentrate.....well no. And this is where so much of the misunderstandings come from. Well little johnny can sit there all day long and read his book on WWII tank specs (me), the most stupid stuff and dull stuff in the world. Who cares about welds and armor thickness and that factory used these wheels and that factory cut the slits this way. So just smack him on the ass and he will get his butt in gear....again no. It also comes with the ability to hyper focus on specific tasks. And if you pull him away from that task he hyper focuses on he will loose his mind, and likely not know why.
Remember that really bad movie The Accountant, he had that ability with numbers, and if pulled away from the task it really messed him up. This is very accurate and why a guy I have known for 40 years told me to watch that movie he is just like you. You might like the movie as well as it is a "guy" movie.
Story time:
About a year ago we had the back tank on a toilet crack and flood the down stairs. Long story short need a new toilet, wife just says buy one, I go to lowes and look, and that little switch in my head went off. I need to learn more about this. So for three months I researched night and day toilets. I learned everything about them, finally the wife put her foot down and said you really need to pick, both upstairs bathrooms are out of action and I am getting sick and tired of going down stairs to pee. Yea that kinda does suck the floor is cold. So within a week I had one picked out. She knew better then to just go buy one, as it would be gone whenever I made my choice, put she gave just the little push I needed. Later that year the AC in the house went out. Did not care, could not force myself to learn anything about it. So I could learn everything about a couple hundred thing I needed but could not on the couple thousand thing I needed....yup just could not force myself to research it. She bought it, did everything.
This is also why video games are so good at keeping these peoples attn, and seems to "calm" them. It is something they are interested in, always changing, it keeps them going....and can spin you off into researching who knows what. Early in the year I was doing a deep dive into south african wars.....now I have read about 8 books on native american wars.....when the switch gets flipped to off I will stop, and I just can't force myself to read another page, my mind is everywhere.
Dyslexia
Dyslexia is really a pain, and also can take many forms. Can be so bad you can't read, to a level like mine where I read what I want to read. This is one reason I test so badly, and was the cause of more then a few beltings. They ask you a question. Why did the chicken not cross the road. Answer, to get to the other side. WRONG smack. You are rushing, go slower. No that is not it, my brain just does not see the not. It will read what it wants to read. A real issue when I took typing in high school, you had to in order to get into the computer classes. I could not find my typos, I was lazy.
Another issue I have is numbers change places, and change themselves. It is real hard for me to dial a phone number. It is hard to wright down a phone number. Where I work we all have numbers, three digits, I will transpose these all the time, or even put numbers that are not there in the guys DSN.
Had a guy working for me, What your number 123, I wrote 965, Where in the hell did you get that. No idea, but for that minute I saw 123.
Also in typing, I see what I want to see, so in making posts there is a great deal of corrections that go on. Things like which wich is witch really get me, just like too to and two, I know what one to use, but the short between my eyes and brain will see the correct one. It really sucks.
To the gun side of things, as well as other "hobbies", I have a great deal of them. I raced SCCA sports cars, and built my own car, I fly model airplanes, guns, cars in general, as well as other toys, slot cars, RC cars raced them at a step above club level, and I have all that stuff, I can't toss anything away....it is like cutting off my arm. I am lucky to have an understanding wife. With the guns I will get something, and be basically focused on that, working up loads, testing, making notes to the n'th degree, and when the switch in my mind flips to enough, well very hard to get me to do much more then just shoot it from time to time, I want that next gun, that next challenge.....and I start to go nuts if I don't have something to keep me going.
This also leads to a great many half done things. I have a small early 80's two stroke motorcycle, needed a new piston, by the time it arrived I lost interest, that was roughly 7 years ago. I push that bike in and out of the shop every time I am out there. The half done engine sits in a bag on my bench. Same deal with the rail buggy, my fiat and fiero. For some reason my brain wanted to do cars again, so after years off (other health issues) I am VERY slowly working on cars again and doing a VW. I have already done the sand rail, fiat and fiero....good timing as I hit a deer last week and needed another car. My bad back has really slowed me down so what would take two hours now is several days, I just can't be on my feet that long so lots of sitting and looking at the world go by, then after about 15 minutes I am up again and putting that wheel bearing in that I sat down to pack.
I will gladly answer questions you may have, I have learned a great deal and have some good sources if you have a loved one that you think might have an issue.
So that is really a little bit about both of these "disorders" and they are real, little johnny will not get better no matter how often you spank him.
Hope this helps someone out there.....And if you choose to be a dick don't expect a reply.
Just like the title says I am 57 and have these two....issues....well I have a great many issues, but these two are the ones talking about today.
My hope in this is a little education, perhaps you have a young one in your life that is having issues, this may really help them....and you....with some of the challenges.
And for a great many this is TLDNR, so for you folk that can't read the entire thing, short answer, brain damage....duh.
So here we go:
ADHD
ADHD is really not understood outside of the people that have to deal with it one way or the other. They think attention deficit hyper activity....well they can't sit still and can't concentrate.....well no. And this is where so much of the misunderstandings come from. Well little johnny can sit there all day long and read his book on WWII tank specs (me), the most stupid stuff and dull stuff in the world. Who cares about welds and armor thickness and that factory used these wheels and that factory cut the slits this way. So just smack him on the ass and he will get his butt in gear....again no. It also comes with the ability to hyper focus on specific tasks. And if you pull him away from that task he hyper focuses on he will loose his mind, and likely not know why.
Remember that really bad movie The Accountant, he had that ability with numbers, and if pulled away from the task it really messed him up. This is very accurate and why a guy I have known for 40 years told me to watch that movie he is just like you. You might like the movie as well as it is a "guy" movie.
Story time:
About a year ago we had the back tank on a toilet crack and flood the down stairs. Long story short need a new toilet, wife just says buy one, I go to lowes and look, and that little switch in my head went off. I need to learn more about this. So for three months I researched night and day toilets. I learned everything about them, finally the wife put her foot down and said you really need to pick, both upstairs bathrooms are out of action and I am getting sick and tired of going down stairs to pee. Yea that kinda does suck the floor is cold. So within a week I had one picked out. She knew better then to just go buy one, as it would be gone whenever I made my choice, put she gave just the little push I needed. Later that year the AC in the house went out. Did not care, could not force myself to learn anything about it. So I could learn everything about a couple hundred thing I needed but could not on the couple thousand thing I needed....yup just could not force myself to research it. She bought it, did everything.
This is also why video games are so good at keeping these peoples attn, and seems to "calm" them. It is something they are interested in, always changing, it keeps them going....and can spin you off into researching who knows what. Early in the year I was doing a deep dive into south african wars.....now I have read about 8 books on native american wars.....when the switch gets flipped to off I will stop, and I just can't force myself to read another page, my mind is everywhere.
Dyslexia
Dyslexia is really a pain, and also can take many forms. Can be so bad you can't read, to a level like mine where I read what I want to read. This is one reason I test so badly, and was the cause of more then a few beltings. They ask you a question. Why did the chicken not cross the road. Answer, to get to the other side. WRONG smack. You are rushing, go slower. No that is not it, my brain just does not see the not. It will read what it wants to read. A real issue when I took typing in high school, you had to in order to get into the computer classes. I could not find my typos, I was lazy.
Another issue I have is numbers change places, and change themselves. It is real hard for me to dial a phone number. It is hard to wright down a phone number. Where I work we all have numbers, three digits, I will transpose these all the time, or even put numbers that are not there in the guys DSN.
Had a guy working for me, What your number 123, I wrote 965, Where in the hell did you get that. No idea, but for that minute I saw 123.
Also in typing, I see what I want to see, so in making posts there is a great deal of corrections that go on. Things like which wich is witch really get me, just like too to and two, I know what one to use, but the short between my eyes and brain will see the correct one. It really sucks.
To the gun side of things, as well as other "hobbies", I have a great deal of them. I raced SCCA sports cars, and built my own car, I fly model airplanes, guns, cars in general, as well as other toys, slot cars, RC cars raced them at a step above club level, and I have all that stuff, I can't toss anything away....it is like cutting off my arm. I am lucky to have an understanding wife. With the guns I will get something, and be basically focused on that, working up loads, testing, making notes to the n'th degree, and when the switch in my mind flips to enough, well very hard to get me to do much more then just shoot it from time to time, I want that next gun, that next challenge.....and I start to go nuts if I don't have something to keep me going.
This also leads to a great many half done things. I have a small early 80's two stroke motorcycle, needed a new piston, by the time it arrived I lost interest, that was roughly 7 years ago. I push that bike in and out of the shop every time I am out there. The half done engine sits in a bag on my bench. Same deal with the rail buggy, my fiat and fiero. For some reason my brain wanted to do cars again, so after years off (other health issues) I am VERY slowly working on cars again and doing a VW. I have already done the sand rail, fiat and fiero....good timing as I hit a deer last week and needed another car. My bad back has really slowed me down so what would take two hours now is several days, I just can't be on my feet that long so lots of sitting and looking at the world go by, then after about 15 minutes I am up again and putting that wheel bearing in that I sat down to pack.
I will gladly answer questions you may have, I have learned a great deal and have some good sources if you have a loved one that you think might have an issue.
So that is really a little bit about both of these "disorders" and they are real, little johnny will not get better no matter how often you spank him.
Hope this helps someone out there.....And if you choose to be a dick don't expect a reply.
