When my grandparents were getting up in age(late 2000's into early 2010's) and arguing about who was hosting, my dad called bull shit, and we started going out to some decent restaurant and he paid the check for like 15-20 people and we left and everybody was happy...
For a few years after that it seemed it was way to much trouble to travel, people were working(we work in an industry that operates 24/7/365), etc... and if we could get together we did, but nothing crazy...
Now were back to being able to do Thanksgiving again, but with a much smaller family, about 6 or 7 of us... so were going out to a restaurant again... $50 per person for salad/soup, turkey or prime rib, potatoes, vegetable and desert... and then you go home... No drama of who is hosting, who is staying where, who is cooking what, etc...