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Re: 2 choices in marriage
In about another month, my wife and I will have been together 39 years. In all that time I don't think either of us has declared a "BOSS". We have lived in a negotiated peace.
In about another month, my wife and I will have been together 39 years. In all that time I don't think either of us has declared a "BOSS". We have lived in a negotiated peace.
Re: 2 choices in marriage
Robert A. Heinlein said, "If it turns out that you're right in a family argument, apologize at once."
One of the secrets to a happy relationship is knowing when to keep your mouth shut.
Robert A. Heinlein said, "If it turns out that you're right in a family argument, apologize at once."
One of the secrets to a happy relationship is knowing when to keep your mouth shut.
Re: 2 choices in marriage
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Lindy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Robert A. Heinlein said, "If it turns out that you're right in a family argument, apologize at once."
One of the secrets to a happy relationship is knowing when to keep your mouth shut.
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Is that from one of his books? Which?
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Lindy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Robert A. Heinlein said, "If it turns out that you're right in a family argument, apologize at once."
One of the secrets to a happy relationship is knowing when to keep your mouth shut.
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Is that from one of his books? Which?
Re: 2 choices in marriage
Compromises suck, because neither one gets what they really wanted.
Variety works better; where each gets their turn, and the other gets some personal alone time, or learns something new.
39 years in July.
Greg
Compromises suck, because neither one gets what they really wanted.
Variety works better; where each gets their turn, and the other gets some personal alone time, or learns something new.
39 years in July.
Greg
Re: 2 choices in marriage
a great institution,if you like being institutionalized. 15years on my life sentence.
a great institution,if you like being institutionalized. 15years on my life sentence.
Re: 2 choices in marriage
That is the greatest one on this page!! I have been in for 7 years and i guess that is just the beginning!
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: birddog762</div><div class="ubbcode-body">a great institution,if you like being institutionalized. 15years on my life sentence. </div></div>
That is the greatest one on this page!! I have been in for 7 years and i guess that is just the beginning!
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: birddog762</div><div class="ubbcode-body">a great institution,if you like being institutionalized. 15years on my life sentence. </div></div>
Re: 2 choices in marriage
Raf: that is from <span style="font-style: italic">Time Enough for Love</span>.
A selection can be found here:
http://www.angelfire.com/or/sociologyshop/lazlong.html
Raf: that is from <span style="font-style: italic">Time Enough for Love</span>.
A selection can be found here:
http://www.angelfire.com/or/sociologyshop/lazlong.html
Re: 2 choices in marriage
The Heinline quote is from Lazarus Long's Notebook, in "Time enough For Love". It is usually rendered: "If you realize you are right, apologize." A very good read. (Lazarus wears a blaster at all times, even in the shower. Or at least a vibro-knife)
Either way, it was Heinline's way of saying that one can be the bigger person in the situation by taking the lower posture. Rather than being "RIGHT" and having her PO'd at you, he espouses apologizing, and later benefiting out of appreciation for what a sensitive guy one is.
The Heinline quote is from Lazarus Long's Notebook, in "Time enough For Love". It is usually rendered: "If you realize you are right, apologize." A very good read. (Lazarus wears a blaster at all times, even in the shower. Or at least a vibro-knife)
Either way, it was Heinline's way of saying that one can be the bigger person in the situation by taking the lower posture. Rather than being "RIGHT" and having her PO'd at you, he espouses apologizing, and later benefiting out of appreciation for what a sensitive guy one is.
Re: 2 choices in marriage
My father-in-law, before his death was a real character. He would tell the young brides to be:
You could give so many men so much pleasure, or one man so much misery (when married)
My father-in-law, before his death was a real character. He would tell the young brides to be:
You could give so many men so much pleasure, or one man so much misery (when married)
Re: 2 choices in marriage
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Compromises suck, because neither one gets what they really wanted.
Variety works better; where each gets their turn, and the other gets some personal alone time, or learns something new.</div></div>
+1
If you compromise, you're only 1/2 happy.
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Compromises suck, because neither one gets what they really wanted.
Variety works better; where each gets their turn, and the other gets some personal alone time, or learns something new.</div></div>
+1
If you compromise, you're only 1/2 happy.
Re: 2 choices in marriage
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Lindy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Robert A. Heinlein said, "If it turns out that you're right in a family argument, apologize at once."
One of the secrets to a happy relationship is knowing when to keep your mouth shut.
</div></div>
Took me a while to learn this lesson...........
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Lindy</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Robert A. Heinlein said, "If it turns out that you're right in a family argument, apologize at once."
One of the secrets to a happy relationship is knowing when to keep your mouth shut.
</div></div>
Took me a while to learn this lesson...........
Re: 2 choices in marriage
Me, too. I'm on my third - and last - wife. Works both ways, though - she's on her third husband.
Old saying: Too soon old, too late smart.
Me, too. I'm on my third - and last - wife. Works both ways, though - she's on her third husband.
Old saying: Too soon old, too late smart.
Re: 2 choices in marriage
Two other choices: When the Little Woman is right, you can accept it and be encouraging, or you can continue to be an ass. Attitude is everything.
As for me, I'm on #last: more than one, less than three.
Two other choices: When the Little Woman is right, you can accept it and be encouraging, or you can continue to be an ass. Attitude is everything.
As for me, I'm on #last: more than one, less than three.
Re: 2 choices in marriage
Married for 27 yrs and would not have changed a thing. And yes it is give and take.
"There are two theories to arguing with a woman" Neither one works Ben Franklin a wise man
Married for 27 yrs and would not have changed a thing. And yes it is give and take.
"There are two theories to arguing with a woman" Neither one works Ben Franklin a wise man
Re: 2 choices in marriage
The thing is to bend with her,but you're two steps ahead in thinking. Honey,do you think I could go hunting,wannt go too? No?,Okay , have fun at the mall! Never be piss off in front of her,if you do,you're just taken 4 steps backwards.Lots of times its better not to say anything.
The thing is to bend with her,but you're two steps ahead in thinking. Honey,do you think I could go hunting,wannt go too? No?,Okay , have fun at the mall! Never be piss off in front of her,if you do,you're just taken 4 steps backwards.Lots of times its better not to say anything.
Re: 2 choices in marriage
its sometimes easier to beg for forgivness(after the fact) than it is to ask for permission(before). now dont take that as "i can cheat and beg for forgivness" no, it doesnt work like that. it can, and has worked for "honey, i was on post, and the range was right there, i decided to shoot for an hour, im sorry".
one of my NCOIC's taught me that.
its sometimes easier to beg for forgivness(after the fact) than it is to ask for permission(before). now dont take that as "i can cheat and beg for forgivness" no, it doesnt work like that. it can, and has worked for "honey, i was on post, and the range was right there, i decided to shoot for an hour, im sorry".
one of my NCOIC's taught me that.
Re: 2 choices in marriage
Never married and no plans to....Why buy the cow when the milk is free?
For those Hienlein fans, try ..."Have Spacesuit, Will Travel". I really prefered his earlier work, the stuff before "Stranger in a Strange Land". .More pure adventure, less highbrow philosophy.
Never married and no plans to....Why buy the cow when the milk is free?
For those Hienlein fans, try ..."Have Spacesuit, Will Travel". I really prefered his earlier work, the stuff before "Stranger in a Strange Land". .More pure adventure, less highbrow philosophy.
Re: 2 choices in marriage
Heinlein: <span style="font-style: italic">Starship Troopers</span> had an effect on my choice of military service. I read it again every few years.
Heinlein: <span style="font-style: italic">Starship Troopers</span> had an effect on my choice of military service. I read it again every few years.
Re: 2 choices in marriage
I never finished it. Started it a few times and got distracted each time.
I never finished it. Started it a few times and got distracted each time.
Re: 2 choices in marriage
Starship Troopers was his best, followed by The Moon is a Harsh Mistress - (of course in my opinion).
As far as Lazarus Long's marriage philosophy, I don't think I will take that advice from a guy who had his mom, and his two cloned daughters. Still a hilarious and awesome character, just really weird when it came to sex - he'd do it with a toaster if it had legs (in fact, Heinlein did have one of his characters do it with a toaster...excuse me, "grokked" it).
In any case, to the subject at hand, I'm envious of all of you who are happily married, and hope someday to join the club. The challenge is finding someone who, at the end of the day, makes you not care if you're wrong or right.
edit to add: of course, with all things, TANSTAAFL
Starship Troopers was his best, followed by The Moon is a Harsh Mistress - (of course in my opinion).
As far as Lazarus Long's marriage philosophy, I don't think I will take that advice from a guy who had his mom, and his two cloned daughters. Still a hilarious and awesome character, just really weird when it came to sex - he'd do it with a toaster if it had legs (in fact, Heinlein did have one of his characters do it with a toaster...excuse me, "grokked" it).
In any case, to the subject at hand, I'm envious of all of you who are happily married, and hope someday to join the club. The challenge is finding someone who, at the end of the day, makes you not care if you're wrong or right.
edit to add: of course, with all things, TANSTAAFL
Re: 2 choices in marriage
I think a good woman lets her man think he's in charge and because she'll honor him by truly taking his final word as the word- then he really is in charge
but what makes a marriage happy is a true partnership- that isn't just about compromise and negotiation but true support of the other- which means giving in when its the right thing to do...and when each person is fulfilled as an individual- they have that much more to offer their spouse and children.
I think a good woman lets her man think he's in charge and because she'll honor him by truly taking his final word as the word- then he really is in charge
but what makes a marriage happy is a true partnership- that isn't just about compromise and negotiation but true support of the other- which means giving in when its the right thing to do...and when each person is fulfilled as an individual- they have that much more to offer their spouse and children.
Re: 2 choices in marriage
Very well put! Some one got their head screwed on right. These words ought to be chisel in gold!
Very well put! Some one got their head screwed on right. These words ought to be chisel in gold!
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