If you're pressing in a longer bullet into the same casing to the same OAL as the shorter bullet then that longer bullet is poking into the powder. A little crunch is OK, but jumping one full grain is a bit of a large jump if your 41gr load was doing well as you say. Generally, when developing a load you would do 0.2 or 0.3gr jumps. For OAL, you can likely seat the bullet to mag length and be good to go. Try one and chamber it, as long as the bullet isn't touching the rifling, you're good to go. If it is toughing the rifling, seat it shorter until its about 0.020-0.030 off the rifling. Easy day.
So, as a general guideline, you could do, for example, 3 or 5 rounds each at 40.7, 41, 41.3, 41.6, 41.9, 42.2, 42.5 and shoot each group at 100y to see which one does the best in your rifle. If you are shooting the higher-end charges and you notice primer flow, primer flattening, primer cratering, light ejector swipes... take note and proceed cautiously as you are getting into the yellow/caution pressure area... if cases get stuck in chamber STOP SHOOTING and do not go any higher as that is definitely beyond the safe pressure area. Take note of what charge weight caused that issue and make the previous safe charge your MAX charge weight.
If you're looking for fun/accurate plinking, then pick the charge weight that gave the best accuracy and just shoot that load. There's a deeeep rabbit hole to dive into with reloading. I'd keep it simple because it will work, and be a lot more fun than constantly tinkering which can become frustrating and make reloading a chore, losing the fun of it.
Welcome to the reloading world! Be safe and HAVE FUN.