Hello Crowbait, please allow me to help you here.
Regarding being able to place bullet into neck easily "after" firing.
In my experience, this is not standardized result. Here is why.
-its because when you "shoot" the round, the brass does not maintain its exact size as it was when it had neck tension. It ...as you can say.."snaps back" somewhat. Thus, you can actually in many types of brass, NOT be able to put a new bullet "by hand" back into the neck, it will require a press. However, even though it requires press, it will be VERY low neck tension, and not reliable, so you should always do "full length" resizing. For most applications around 3k neck tension is appropriate.
This is a separate issue than "neck turning". Neck turning is a practice that people who seek lowest SD as possible do, because all brass is not the same thickness around the neck. Brass may be variable from say 14k-16k thick for example. So you neck size it to make it all 14k. And what this does, is make the neck tension more consistent from load to load. In my extensive testing, this lowers SD and ES by ~20-30%. This in turn, will make a larger difference the longer range you are shooting at and matter A LOT at 1000 yards for example.
Oh also, book data is not reliable, as in its not accurate to the combination you are using. It could be +/- 2 entire GRAINS different than reality in the combination of components and barrel, etc, your using. So just use book for finding starting point, and then shoot until you get results you want. After you find baseline, book is useless.
I hope this helps you.