You are completely correct. As long as you're not chasing a touch, jam or really short jump, then an accurate measurement is less critical. As I stated in my earlier post, I followed Eric Cortina's recommendation of starting 0.020" off the lands and working down in 0.003" increments. My nodes are 3, 6 or 9 thousandths deeper than 0.020" depending on the powder. (IMR 4350 vs StaBall 6.5 vs H4350)
It's not about the exact dimension off the lands, or the bullet jump dimension itself. It's about finding the seating depth (and COAL) gives you the tightest groups. With a caveat of being at least 0.020" off the lands -- though some people want to shrink that dimension slightly (ex. 0.015") Shooting multiple groups at different seating depths is what allows you to find the node.
I shoot a 5-shot group at each seating depth. At some point I'll probably make a few cartridges that would be 0.017" off the lands -- just in case my original measurement was off. As I type this I'm wondering if I should try some additional seating depths for smaller COALs such as 2.812", 2.809", 2.806" and 2.803". (Factory ammo is 2.800") I punch holes in paper every other weekend, so spending a little bit more time adjusting the seating depth for an evening is no big deal.