Interesting to read how many people lube inside of case necks before running a mandrel into them. I never have, and after thousands of rounds of .223 expanded with a stainless steel mandrel, I have yet to encounter any sticking or galling issues. I have measured the mandrel for wear and have found none. I use a carbide mandrel for 6.5CM, and, as expected, no issues there either.
For me, it was never an issue with the mandrel 'wearing', so much as it was brass build-up on the mandrel itself. That led to out-of-spec neck IDs, which pretty much defeated the purpose of using the expander (for me). I even had it on the floating carbide expander ball in my Redding Type 'S' F/L sizing die. See below for why.
That $hit was harder than hell to get off there... usually involving some sort of polishing, either with a patch of JB or steel wool, or both. Yes, it got the brass off. Pretty sure it didn't do the mandrel any good in the long run either. The worst case example was using a Lyman M-die expander - got heavy build ups, and then after I got it clean again, kept it lubed. But then my seating force was way off - too heavy. Finally tracked it down to the wear on the mandrel from my polishing - turned out that damn thing was something softer than normal.
Perhaps the fact that I anneal and then tumble-clean using corncob media treated with a few capfuls of Lyman Brite Case prior to resizing "lubes" inside the case neck sufficiently. I load on a Dillon RL550 in "hybrid" mode so resize/prime/mandrel get done with each handle stroke.
I think you hit on the key item there: dry tumbling with media. There is a very slight film of tumbler dust left inside the necks, and it functions as enough of a lubricant to keep things from galling. That, and the necks have a build-up of carbon inside as well, so you're not getting direct metal-on-metal friction. Cleaning the brass down to bare metal, whether by ultrasonic or wet tumbling w/ SS pins, has it's time and place. But the amount of f'ing steps *added* to avoid problems like this (brass build-up on neck expander balls or mandrels). Tumbling in dry media, or not tumbling at all, solves a lot of those headaches.