If you're loading for an AR, just seat bullets to a little shorter than max magazine length and I would think you could rest assured the bullet won't get jammed into the throat/lands.
If you're crimping your bullets you may be OVER crimping and slightly collapsing your shoulders. This causes a bulge just below the shoulder that will prevent the round from chambering. Especially if using the built-in crimp feature of your seating die. I crimp mine in a seperate operation with a taper crimp die or better yet a Lee Factory Crimp die. Even if every case is exactly the same length, a variation in neck thickness will cause an overcrimp with the normal roll crimp feature in your seating die. And I never seat/crimp in the same operation, even with revolver rounds.
As for case gages, I recommend the JP Rifles gage. These are cut to actual chamber dimensions with tapered walls etc just like your chamber. Some case gages may have straight sidewalls and only measure critical headspace and length dimensions and they may not catch the slightly bulged shoulders etc. This one will. If I load 10 rds or 1000 rds, I go through and drop every one of them in this gage before I consider the task done.
I'm just telling you what worked for me over the years in dealing with the same problems you describe. May not work for you or anybody else but it's the method I've developed in order to have full confidence in my ammo so that I can share it with my family. YMMV