In any typical large frame AR... recoil buffer , spring , and buffer tube recipes. ( Don't mix the parts )
DPMS Pattern....Standard AR15 Carbine buffer tube, 2.5" buffer, ( I use a 308 Tubbs Flatwire ) recoil spring / 308 carbine recoil spring for DPMS pattern.
Armalite Pattern .... Vltor / Armalite carbine buffer tube ( 3/4" longer then a AR15 carbine tube ) , Standard AR15 3.25" carbine buffer, and I still use a .308 Tubbs Flatwire recoil spring. Armalite recoil spring works great as well. EA1095 ( DO NOT use in the AR15 carbine length buffer tube )
( the Tubbs 308 Flatwire fits all buffer tube lengths , rifle, DPMS Pattern, Armalite Pattern )
FWIW.... Lots of manufacturers use the shorter DPMS pattern carbine setup's, Aero, DPMS, PSA, etc... so clearly both patterns work.
As mentioned battering can happen at the lowers RE threads... dropping a quarter / spacer into the buffer tube will work... just make sure the buffer tube is threaded into the lower correctly, and you don't have less then 3/16" space between the retracted bolt face and the actuated mag catch.
IMHO, drill a centered hole in your spacer...( drainage thing )
The battering tends to come from a possibly "weak" recoil spring, A overgassed barrel that needlessly has a vigorous cyclic speed ....a buffer tube that isn't in spec internally ( slightly to long ) ....or threaded in improperly ( needs another full rotation , yours looks fine ) ....or as mentioned, the BCG has the sharp ends shown above ( Thanks to rpoL98 ) ... or a combo all all the above.
The lack of any form of a Mil-spec guideline for Large Frame AR's doesn't help... arrgh. Your issue is a common one in Large Frame AR's.
FWIW... I have numerous Large Frames with both buffer tube patterns in use... barrel lengths from 14.5" P/W through 22" , all with adj. GB's all have been GTG.
So the DPMS pattern does work.