Resizing in general usually lengthens the case overall. The brass we are moving has to go somewhere. I only size with the collet die anymore. I can skip the lube step and the 2nd cleaning to get the lube off (just my process while full length sizing). Loading is something I have to do to go shooting. I dont overly enjoy it like some, mildly sadistic, people might lol.
Just my opinion here so take it with some salt as usual. Generally I dont measure a whole lot, maybe a couple cases out of 100 just to make sure I'm getting enough bump on the shoulder. So yesterday, if memory serves, I was getting my .002 bump on the shoulder and growing by about .0004 I think. I really don't keep good track of stuff like that, because I've found it doesnt matter a whole lot tbh. As long as I'm getting the shoulder bumped enough, I'll let the neck lengthen until I get difficulty chambering, then I'll trim em back a little. Longer necks seem to help with runout for me, at least in my experience.
I usually see a pretty consistent bump on the shoulder of .002. Not sure why yours seems to be growing at the shoulder to lengthen headspace. Are you measuring to the datum with a sinclair or hornady comparator on a caliper? Maybe set the die up again and double check it's working properly. Use a little aeroshell on the outside of the collet where it interacts with the die body. For mine, it touches the shell holder and I go in another 1&3/4 ish turn. I'll go in a bit more if I want more kiss on the shoulder.
I'm really only reloading 308 for precision right now. Using jagemann brass, with 175gr noslers, I'm getting about .75 moa with just collet sizing and seating with a forester micrometer die. I shot a 10 shot group, 9 actually, on my last outing and got a hair under .75 MOA. I'll usually do that in the middle of practice at the range, after the barrel is good n warm, and after I'm tired... I mean calm. The reason it was a 9 shot group was because I kinda forgot to dial back to zero after going out to like 600 yards, so I hit like 5 mils high rofl.