The hallmark of what I’m calling autism on this forum has always been a combo of:
- OP has what seems to be a straightforward problem
- But OP actually has a masked anal question
- Markedly and weirdly friendly replies by OP to caustic comments
- OP seems to love debate more than actually figuring out solution to his problem (or in discovering if the problem matters IRL)
- OP’s intense desire to hear their opinion coming out of someone else’s mouth
- More friendly OP replies that disregard other’s evidence or expert’s opinions that contradict OP’s original belief
- OP seems to a lack of humor, banter, etc. He has a machine-like AI coldness about him.
- OP never (really) changes their opinion, or does so only after pages and pages of exhaustive debate
- OP often flies off onto tangential discussions (also anal)
- OP seems confused by hostility
- OP must have last word
It’s almost like these types of guys have read a cheat sheet on how to get along with others. “Be relentlessly upbeat”, “Ask for clarification” etc this cheat sheet says.
But the poor fellows don’t understand the basic ground rules for how two normal adults interact when one asks for help and, crucially, how to
accept the help given.
And then they get confused as to why they are constantly met with such hostility.
I have some empathy for you. But realize, if you are not an engineer or, especially in this context, a machinist, DO NOT engage in a debate as how you are right in their field of expertise.
Unless you like people making fun of you.
You might ask questions around the edges to gauge their actual level of knowledge or to potentially remind them of some crucial thing they forgot, but yeah. Go easy.
The overpowering need to debate in the face of superior knowledge, expertise, schooling etc combined with weird “upbeatness” is a dead giveaway to (what I’m coining) Autistic Forum Behavior.
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