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Honestly man, look at it this way. A dog is a part of your life, you are your companion's whole life. Slowly build up the life you want later, if the both of you are happy with each other, don't kill the relationship. Putting up with 60+ hour workweeks for a winter is nothing compared to wondering what your life would have been like if you'd have kept them in your life. Trust me, I know. No money, possessions or accomplishments can fill the guilt I have for the 1st pup I had and gave away.I could use some life advice from you other dog lovers.
For 3 weeks now, I can't reconcile that my commitment to my dog feels like it is holding me back from the life I really want. She is a lab/collie mix, is very smart, obedient, loyal and affectionate.
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For the 3 years I have had her, I lived in a big midwest city, and I lived alone. I didn't have much ambition, so taking care of a dog by myself didn't feel like a big deal. 2 months ago I move to central Idaho, to piece of land that I could see myself living at until I die. I now have big ambitions to build a house, buy a truck, horse and trailer, start raising animals. I have the drive and the focus, but not the money. I want to work 60+ hr weeks this winter, really want to bust my ass, but I don't want my dog to be home or in the car alone that much.
I can't help but think she would be really happy with a family. What would you do?
I could use some life advice from you other dog lovers.
For 3 weeks now, I can't reconcile that my commitment to my dog feels like it is holding me back from the life I really want. She is a lab/collie mix, is very smart, obedient, loyal and affectionate.
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For the 3 years I have had her, I lived in a big midwest city, and I lived alone. I didn't have much ambition, so taking care of a dog by myself didn't feel like a big deal. 2 months ago I move to central Idaho, to piece of land that I could see myself living at until I die. I now have big ambitions to build a house, buy a truck, horse and trailer, start raising animals. I have the drive and the focus, but not the money. I want to work 60+ hr weeks this winter, really want to bust my ass, but I don't want my dog to be home or in the car alone that much. I'll be living in an apartment for the winter.
I can't help but think she would be really happy with a family. I'm having a hard time thinking of a creative solution. What would you do?
I could use some life advice from you other dog lovers.
For 3 weeks now, I can't reconcile that my commitment to my dog feels like it is holding me back from the life I really want. She is a lab/collie mix, is very smart, obedient, loyal and affectionate.
For the 3 years I have had her, I lived in a big midwest city, and I lived alone. I didn't have much ambition, so taking care of a dog by myself didn't feel like a big deal. 2 months ago I move to central Idaho, to piece of land that I could see myself living at until I die. I now have big ambitions to build a house, buy a truck, horse and trailer, start raising animals. I have the drive and the focus, but not the money. I want to work 60+ hr weeks this winter, really want to bust my ass, but I don't want my dog to be home or in the car alone that much. I'll be living in an apartment for the winter.
I can't help but think she would be really happy with a family. I'm having a hard time thinking of a creative solution. What would you do?
I could use some life advice from you other dog lovers.
For 3 weeks now, I can't reconcile that my commitment to my dog feels like it is holding me back from the life I really want. She is a lab/collie mix, is very smart, obedient, loyal and affectionate.
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For the 3 years I have had her, I lived in a big midwest city, and I lived alone. I didn't have much ambition, so taking care of a dog by myself didn't feel like a big deal. 2 months ago I move to central Idaho, to piece of land that I could see myself living at until I die. I now have big ambitions to build a house, buy a truck, horse and trailer, start raising animals. I have the drive and the focus, but not the money. I want to work 60+ hr weeks this winter, really want to bust my ass, but I don't want my dog to be home or in the car alone that much. I'll be living in an apartment for the winter.
I can't help but think she would be really happy with a family. I'm having a hard time thinking of a creative solution. What would you do?
Thanks for the replies. I've being feeling like a heartless wretch these past 3 weeks, and your writing is stirring up deep feelings for me.
For the first year and a half, I took her to the off-leash dog park every day, and when she matured some and calmed down it was every other day. When she impaled herself running through the wood, I nursed her for 4 month, washing the dried puss off her wound twice a day, and after she recovered I decided to move to Idaho so she could have more open space to play (and so I could live off the land and do fulfilling work).
And in the first 6 weeks here she got underfoot of a horse, got in 3 fights with other dogs, sliced her leg open in a barbed wire fence and got grass seeds in both ears. I have pet insurance for her, so she has gotten prompt care and is in good health, but I am exhausted and burned out providing a good life for her. I want time for me and what I want. I am trying to find someone to watch her for a week, so I can have a break, spend a day cutting firewood, try to make a friend at the bar.
"My" first dog was a Sheppard adopted via a live in girl friend. He was a beautiful specimen, 110 lbs full of energy and always eager to please, regretfully at that time in my life I didn't have the time to devote to the relationship due to business obligations and my lack of understanding of how a loyal dog truly enriches one's life."Ranger"
10 months old. My first German Shepherd. Intelligent, athletic, loyal to a fault. I still have puppy battles every week (chewing) but that's part of the deal. He spends about 72 hours a week with me.
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It is really wonderful when a dog picks it's human, as opposed to the human picking the dog. When my wife and I went to look at some border collies in the whelping pen, one of the older dogs that had been running out in the field came in to see us, and one checked out my wife, then checked out me, and sat right next to me leaning on my leg. I moved down to the other end of the pen, and the dog did it again. When I realized I had been chosen, I told the breeder what I thought, and she said I was correct, that the dog had chosen me. So I ended up with the dog that picked me, not the one of the dogs I was there to look at. I named him Buster, and he was my companion for over 14 years. Old age finally got him, and I still miss him.When our dog Corkie died in 2005 we were heartbroken and my wife took it really hard. Corkie was a sheepdog mix was a great pet. I tried to get her another dog and was pushing a black lab but she wasn't sure she was ready to do it again thinking she couldn't stand losing another. We've always gotten dogs from the shelter. A few weeks passed and she was still hurting when one day at the library where she works a stray dog ran in the door as a patron entered the build, ran all the way in and around behind the counter where my wife was standing and sat at her side looking up at her. He was a newfoundland lab mix.
They called animal control and they took him in and prepared him for adoption with my wife as a person of interest. I told her that's your dog and you waited so long he had to come get you! He was the best dog we ever had, we named him Lucky.
Hmmm... that is the most coordination, civility, and contemplation I've seen in a pack. I like it lol.
In keeping with the kind nature of this thread, I shall refrain from giving it to the OP with both barrels. Using a movie as some sort of lens through which to take stock of life situations is not helping either of them. This picture here is stunning and I bet many members would trade slots. Yup. I would. Find a neighbor who can let the dog out for at least an hour each day while you go to work, or the bar. Find a doggie day care, they're out there. I understand being a pet owner can be difficult, challenging, and expensive at times. My dog had ACL surgery back in April. We know that caring for these animals makes us better. When I get home and she greets me, that is usually the best part of my day! The options and choices our OP is considering with regards to his life cleary are numerous, but with a closer look and equal dedication, I believe that he can find solutions for the both of them. It may be a stretch at first, most things are, but be a good steward of this faithful companion. I pray often that St. Francis will guard and protect our pets, rest assured that I will include both of you in a prayer with a special intention.I keep thinking about the movie There Will Be Blood. Daniel Plainview chooses ambition over family. Often, my ambitions feel like the most important thing to me right now. They motivate me so much. All those material things I mentioned: house, truck, trailer, those are all tools for my ambition to be self-sufficient.
I am struggling with patience, I want to be self-sufficient yesterday, and I judge myself for being in debt, and being reliant on meaningless jobs for survival. If I just work part time, instead of 60+ hrs, then I would have time for day long hikes with my dog, relaxed reloading sessions, brewing beer, but then it might be years before I am more self-sufficient. I am so focused on the destination, I am not enjoying the journey.
I hate asking for help. But it's kinda pathetic of me that it feels like more of an option to re-home her than ask a neighbor to let her out during the day. Fuck my pride. Her name is Ella
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Stay strong brother, my pack will be sending some prayers for you and yours.To break from the pack a little, my best friend for the past 15 years has been a mixed female cat an exgirlfriend rescued from a no kill shelter on Long Island, NY. She moved from NY to TX with me 13 years ago and has been a great companion. She is smart, affectionate and loves to go for walks on a leash. My little girl has bucked the odds health wise more than once but she has been diagnosed with cancer in her sinus passages. Nothing can be done and our time is limited. My focus is to make sure she is the most loved and best fed critter in the world until it is time for her to rest. This sucks.
Thanks a lot.Stay strong brother, my pack will be sending some prayers for you and yours.