I like the idea of adding something crunchy for contrast, like the asparagus, even a green bean or celery if you don't want/can't do jalapeño. Then have two different sauces for dipping or adding, like a nice rich bbq and a creamy something or other.
Damn right. Properly steamed or sauteed veggies are excellent. I used to eat much hotter, now I am careful. Still lots of jalapenos, garlic and habaneros, but in moderation most of the time.