Ive been divorced since 1-18-02. from all the horror stories I've heard, my relationship with the ex has been above normal as far as getting along and putting our kiddo first.
Not once in 8 years has either of us referrenced the divorce decree. We do every other weekend, if something comes up that our daughter would benefit from we swap weekends.
If on a particular holiday one side of the family has alot more going on that said kiddo would benefit from thats where she goes.
If ex comes to me and says "Hey, Daughter has ________ need, and I cant swing it" I have made it happen.
Ex says" Going school clothes shopping!" I dole out an extra 300.00 bucks (or whatever amount fits the currnet need) and say here ya go.
No matter what it is that my daughter has needed, and MOST of what she wants it I dole out the cash.
I have NEVER missed a child support payment. I have been late on occasion and I honestly forgot to write her a check recently (which ex called and asked about it on a Sunday eve, and I profusely apologized while getting off my ass and driving to her house, while we're on the phone mind you, and hand delivering that check within the hour).
The nut kicker you ask? I recieved three letters in the mail last night stating that I was in arrears (sp?) on child support and health care(which I have always provided)
from 1-18-02.
My fuck up? I never paid through the court. I always paid her directly as per a conversation that her and I had back then.
We used the same lawyer for christsakes.
This all comes very shortly after my daughter said that she wanted to live with me.
Any suggestions?
Not once in 8 years has either of us referrenced the divorce decree. We do every other weekend, if something comes up that our daughter would benefit from we swap weekends.
If on a particular holiday one side of the family has alot more going on that said kiddo would benefit from thats where she goes.
If ex comes to me and says "Hey, Daughter has ________ need, and I cant swing it" I have made it happen.
Ex says" Going school clothes shopping!" I dole out an extra 300.00 bucks (or whatever amount fits the currnet need) and say here ya go.
No matter what it is that my daughter has needed, and MOST of what she wants it I dole out the cash.
I have NEVER missed a child support payment. I have been late on occasion and I honestly forgot to write her a check recently (which ex called and asked about it on a Sunday eve, and I profusely apologized while getting off my ass and driving to her house, while we're on the phone mind you, and hand delivering that check within the hour).
The nut kicker you ask? I recieved three letters in the mail last night stating that I was in arrears (sp?) on child support and health care(which I have always provided)
from 1-18-02.
My fuck up? I never paid through the court. I always paid her directly as per a conversation that her and I had back then.
We used the same lawyer for christsakes.
This all comes very shortly after my daughter said that she wanted to live with me.
Any suggestions?